“I must have been in my own world,” I lied, knowing I had just been hiding behind my sunglasses.In that moment I began to wonder how my interactions with guys I was interested with would change if I made more of an effort to look them in the eye.One of the cute trainers approached me in the elevator. “I tried to say hello to you, but you ignored me.”My face burned with embarrassment.I had seen him the day before, too, and even though I could feel him looking at me, I couldn’t look bring my eyes up to his.When you’re thinking about what to say, immediately you get confused and nervous. When a guy’s eyes wander, it makes her feel nervous. Now imagine sitting down across from somebody you’re about to cut a major business deal with.But for some reason, every time this guy starts talking about what he’s going to offer, his eyes become shifty and he refuses to make eye contact with you. Would you feel like you’re making the right decision?After all, Ok Cupid’s findings were based on behavior, not just talk, right? Like everyone else, we believed in Ok Cupid’s conclusions. But every time we looked into this, we found the same thing: daters who used Photofeeler for photo testing were getting right-swipes like never before.But the more data we collected about men’s dating photo attractiveness, the more it became undeniable: Ok Cupid’s advice wasn’t raising men’s photo scores. In fact, users reported 3-5x (200-400%) more matches!
But, at the same time, widespread skepticism rose too.
Trust is the number one thing that needs to exist for any successful relationship — friendship, friends with benefits, business, dating, whatever.
If a woman can trust you from the second she meets you, then she’ll trust you with her phone number.
One Reddit commenter put it this way: Further — everywhere men floated the “don’t smile in pictures” advice, many women decried how much they hated these nonsmiling pictures.
But, the men countered, women don’t necessarily know what they want.